Why Change?

"If nothing ever changed, there'd be no butterflies"

I have always known that people change. It's inevitable. You can sit here and preach all day that you don't think you have changed one bit since your were however old, but I would beg to differ. Everyone changes but what I get confused on is the why and the how.

Its obvious that we need change to become the people we are "meant" to be, but that always seems to just make things more complicated instead of more clarified. I mean shouldn't we have a better feeling about change if we know it is making us into better people and that it is a necessity to survive. I guess maybe now it seems to be more of an acceptance issue. Maybe we just can't accept our lives changing and especially the lives of those so intertwined in ours. Guess I can't really decipher the why other than the fact that we have to change to move forward with our lives.

Now, how do we change. It doesn't make sense for someone to just wake up one morning and have an epiphany that they are no longer the same as yesterday. Maybe that is what it seems like, but I disagree. . I just always wonder if we become different people because of the people we have met and they have molded us or is it because we leave pieces of ourselves behind with everyone we meet.

I suppose it is a little of both. I think that we are shaped and formed by the people we have met. We take a piece of them and in exchange they take a piece of us. This exchange is essential for relationships and connections to be made. So yea, you meet the cute guy or girl in the bar and you talk, I also think that while talking you are taking a piece of them and vice versa. Now, of course if you have a five minute conversation about something completely unmeaningful to both of you then the odds of you becoming a different person because of them is very slim. However, say you meet a person, you all have something in common, you talk for maybe thirty minutes, you exchange numbers and you are thinking to yourself that, "this person is awesome." Now I would argue that this person is changing you. You may not see it yet but you have both already taken a piece of each other. From there you begin to change and mold yourself with this person until the net comes along. This happens both in relationships and friendships. I think we can all admit that at times we are closer to certain friends than others.....maybe this is why....

I don't know, it may all be a little far-fetched but I do believe we are shaped and changed by the people we meet. We take part of them and they take a part of us. Neither of us will ever be the same because of it and maybe that is the beauty in change, of course until the change tears something apart. That is never good.

This whole post was stemmed from a song that I recently found. I am not going to put the video up here, but I am putting the lyrics which spurred these thoughts in my mind.

"So I leave the room,

'bout halfway down the hall

I turn around she screams out

'What you don't believe in love.'

Said I'll never be who I was

When I was 17

Cause every time I walk away

I leave a piece of me."

- Kevin Rudolf - I Song